Thursday, November 10

if this was a movie

I was sitting in the passenger seat of one vehicle called 'Arthur' a couple of weeks ago when I was hit with a (very obvious) thought: movies aren't real. Duh? Yeah. It should be a 'duh'. But I was sitting there, thinking about my best friend next to me who waited months for a boy to sweep her off her feet and thinking about myself and all of the crazy ups and downs that everyone inevitably experiences in life and realized that more often than not, things really don't just happen to you. How often does someone just "get" everything they want? I looked at her and I looked at myself and all I could see were two people that had been waiting. Waiting. Waiting for what they wanted to happen to just happen to them. Waiting for them to just "get better". I don't know what exactly it was, but I suddenly visualized what I wanted to happen as if it were a movie. And the more I thought about what I wanted to happen and what I expected to happen if I sat it out and waited, the more I realized just how ridiculous it was that I expected to wait for it to happen. Maybe the best thing I realized was that we have to make things happen for ourselves. The second I realized the moment I wanted was never going to happen the way I wanted it to happen was a really liberating one. We have to go out and get what we want. We have every ability to change things for ourselves but only if we make them happen for ourselves. Text that person first. Change your major. Study abroad. Write the letter you've been wanting to write. Reach out to a person first. Do something you've always wanted to happen. Your movie moment will never happen if you sit and wait for it to happen for it. Don't wait for a kiss, go get that damn kiss instead of waiting for the boy you love to come to his senses because that scene from the movies is never going to happen where he shows up outside your window throwing pebbles and apologizes. Do exactly what it is that you need to do to make yourself happy first. There's always something you can do and always a part of fate that is in your control. I firmly believe of right now. And I'm happy.


By Sara Romero said...

What an amazing thing to realize huh? So many people go their whole lives not understanding this or to afraid in case things still don't work out. I think its empowering to finally understand that and this way of thinking will get you SO far in life. Love the anecdote.


Helen said...

Great post. I totally agree with what you have to say. Life is there to be lived!

Steffys Pros and Cons said...

such a smartie! i learned this recently too. you should read this book i just finished called the 7 habits of highly effective ppl, its all about this concept. if we create our destiny and take responsibility for our own lives, we can accomplish SO so much!

<3 steffy
Steffys Pros and Cons

Bethany Kellen of bunnypicnic said...

no sense in waiting. you go girl. seriously.

♥Abby said...

This is absolutely awesome! Not only is the post just pure awesome, but it's because I realized this a few months ago..
Hardly anything just HAPPENS to you. You're right, we have to make it happen ourselves. I wish more people would realize this; there'd be a lot more happy people in the world.

Have a great weekend! =)


Becca said...

aw mags, love this.
I love your heart on this, and your thoughts.

so good.

and it's amazing to just get out and do what you want and need to do!

Paula said...

this is such a great post! I have been thinking the same thing alot lately and try to live by it from now on. and youre right, its a very liberating realization!! I have been sitting next to a totally nice girl in some classes for about a year and we're both totally shy. I have been thinking we'd be great friends since we seem to have a lot in common and lately I started talking to her a lot more. and we're getting along just fine! I don't know why I just sat there all the time thinking "come on, talk to me, we'd be great friends". I'm glad I somehow put my shyness aside and took the first step. :) wow, this turned into a rather long comment.. have a great weekend!!

SomeoneLikeYou said...

So beautifully said <3 You have such a way with words that always gets me thinking in a way I usually don't. Thanks for always being an inspiration. xx

kylee said...

i have definitely learned this same lesson recently. i always used to be so timid with boys refusing to text first and refusing to invite myself over - silly things like that. i have learned that if i want him to know i like him, if i want to hang out with him, if i want anything in life i have to make the decision and act on it. my favorite line of yours was "there is always something you can do." sooo true. there is always something we can be doing, someone we can be helping, somewhere we can be going. always. so glad you're feeling happy right now and so glad you're making that study abroad happen! way to go & do girl!

Mri said...

I love this post...
So beautifully said.
Thank you so much :)

xxx, Mri

hellolyndsey said...

you. are. amazing.

lyndsey of hellolyndsey

Katie said...

Ugh. I know just what you mean. And it's amazing and scary and wonderful and horrible all at the same time. :-P Trying to make things change for me now.

Thanks for this post. ;)